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  • Kait Towner, LMHC, RPT, CCPT, IMH-E

How to Improve Your Relationship With Your Child

Being a parent is the most difficult job out there. However, just because parenting may be difficult doesn’t mean that it can’t be fun! Having a positive relationship with your child is key to making parenting less work and more play!


…..but where do you start?


Today’s blog will focus on three simple ways to foster a better relationship with your child!


HAVE SCHEDULED “SPECIAL TIME”

The concept of “Special Time” or 1:1 time is thrown around constantly in the world of child therapy, and for good reason! Children LOVE to have your undivided attention. It communicates to them how important and valued they are to you. I would recommend setting aside at least 15 minutes once a week to have one on one time with your child. Having the one on one time be the same day and time every week will additionally validate for your child that they are important, loved, and worthy of your time.


The next two strategies really go hand and hand with “special time” in that they should happen during that one on one time with your child. However, I do believe that they are important strategies to use outside of “special time” as well!


BE PRESENT

Being present is easier said than done in this world of instant gratification! I will be the first to admit that I have to be mindful and work on this daily myself! When you are fully present with your child, you nurture and grow your relationship in ways that you can’t when technology is in the way. Put down the phone, turn off the tv, and focus solely on your child. They are way better and more entertaining than social media anyway!


LET YOUR CHILD TAKE THE LEAD

Children have almost no control of their little worlds. Adults are in control of their schedules, routines, rules, and so much more! This is why it can be so empowering for a child to make decisions during your play interactions (in a nutshell this is the basis for child centered play therapy!) During your interactions, have your child choose what to play, designate roles, and explore! Your job is to follow along. Of course it is still okay to set limits when necessary in order to ensure you and your child’s safety (ie no jumping on the couch), but do your best to allow your children to take the lead.


Want to learn more about how I can help you foster a positive relationship with your child? Contact me at (585) 206-1506 or kaittownerlmhc@gmail.com for a FREE phone consultation!